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The 3am circle saved my winter

Started 6 February 2025 · 19 replies · 210 hearts · read 4.5k times

BethanPontypridd, UK · 6 February 2025
1.4 years ago

The 3am circle saved my winter Writing it down partly to work out what I actually think.

Anyone else navigating this? I feel as though every piece of advice I read was written for someone with a completely different week.

I would like to know what other people say when asked, because my current answer is too long and invites more questions.

Practical question, and possibly a silly one, but the logistics of this are defeating me considerably more than the medicine is.

Every piece of advice I read appears to have been written for somebody with a completely different week from mine, so I am asking people whose weeks look like this.

Thank you. This circle has solved four practical problems for me already and I am hoping for a fifth.

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RenataKraków, PL
#1

Something that helped was writing the day of the week on the box, because on a run of nights I genuinely lose track.

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TobySwindon, UK
#2

Renata said something I want to sit with for a second.

I found that my worst weeks were always the transition weeks, and I now protect those rather than treating them as ordinary.

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Facilitator note: the guides cover the practical side of this reasonably well, and what this thread has that they do not is somebody's actual Tuesday.

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NoahHull, UK
#4

The fridge at work is not somewhere I trust, so mine never leaves the house, and that decision has removed a recurring worry.

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BoazHaarlem, NL
#5

Gently disagreeing with Noah, or rather adding the other half of it.

My experience is that this is entirely manageable on shifts and requires more deliberate planning than anybody tells you.

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OdileMontreal, CA
#6

Thank you. Genuinely.

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BrackenHexham, UK
#7

The thing I would say to a new shift worker is: pick your anchor day and protect it. Everything else can be flexible.

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OssianTromsø, NO
#8

Reading Bracken, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Somebody here suggested treating my rota as the calendar rather than the month, and reorganising my planning that way solved several things at once.

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BassCoventry, UK
#9

Ossian has already said most of this and I want to add the one part that was different for me.

What surprised me was that my energy on shift improved noticeably at about month five, and that has been the durable benefit.

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YannickBrussels, BE
#10

I have found the guides here more usable than most because they do not assume a nine-to-five, which is rarer than it should be.

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NolwennRennes, FR
#11

My storage question was the one I asked here first, and I got a practical answer within an hour from somebody on a similar rota.

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SunnivaBodø, NO
#12

I do mine straight after my last night, before sleeping, and that has been the most consistent slot I have found in four years.

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HuwWrexham, UK
#13

Gently disagreeing with Yannick, or rather adding the other half of it.

I asked for my review appointments to be after a run of days rather than nights, and it made them considerably more useful.

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LulaBournemouth, UK
#14

Coming back to say the anchor day held through two rota changes and a ward move, which is more than most of my habits have managed.

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NettieBarrow, UK
#15

Huw — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

My week has no shape and everything written about this assumes one. Anchoring to a fixed day rather than a fixed time was what finally worked.

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HollyBath, UK
#16

Recognition rather than advice, if that is any use at all.

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RillaAberdeen, UK
#17

I do mine on the same weekday regardless of what shift I am on, and I gave up on the time of day entirely about a year ago.

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Facilitator note: nothing in this circle is medical advice and the practical arrangements still need agreeing with whoever prescribes for you.

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NorahDerry, NI
#19

Gently disagreeing with Holly, or rather adding the other half of it.

Nights were the hard part. Working out what counted as a day when my days ran from nine at night took months.

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