Fatigue plus nights plus a toddler

I found the tiredness hardest to explain to other people. It is not the tiredness of a bad night, it is a different quality, and there is no good vocabulary for it.

What made the difference for me was a fixed wake time rather than a fixed bedtime. Somebody here suggested it and it took about ten days to work.

What worked was accepting that I had less in the day than I used to, temporarily, and taking things out of the week rather than trying to do them tired.

Toby said something I want to sit with for a second.

The vivid dreams caught me completely off guard. Nobody had mentioned them and about a third of this circle seems to have had them.

Something practical: I stopped scheduling anything on the evening of the day I do it. That one change took the pressure out of the whole week.

This is the post I wish had existed when I was looking for it.

Light in the morning was the thing that helped most and cost nothing. Twenty minutes outside before nine, most days, and my nights changed within a fortnight.

Torrin has already said most of this and I want to add the one part that was different for me.

Mine was worst in winter and much better in summer, and I now think a good half of it was seasonal and would have happened anyway.

What I noticed was that the tiredness came in a wave in the mid-afternoon and if I could get through forty minutes it passed. Trying to push through it never worked.