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Wine with dinner when dinner is very small

Started 10 May 2025 · 15 replies · 161 hearts · read 3.4k times

NkechiAbuja, NG · 10 May 2025
about a year ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: Wine with dinner when dinner is very small

Practical question, and possibly a silly one.

Every piece of advice I read appears to have been written for somebody with a completely different week from mine, so I am asking people whose weeks look like this.

Practical question, and possibly a silly one, but the logistics of this are defeating me considerably more than the medicine is.

I would like to know what other people say when asked, because my current answer is too long and invites more questions.

I will come back and say what I settled on, in case it is useful to the next person asking this.

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AmbroseYork, UK
#1

Two landed like five for me, very early on, and it took one uncomfortable evening to work out that something had genuinely changed.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#2

I am going to redirect us back to the original poster, who has not had a chance to answer any of the questions put to them.

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DotFalmouth, UK
#3

Nothing here is medical advice, and on interactions specifically a pharmacist will give you a better answer in five minutes than any thread.

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PerdyShrewsbury, UK
#4

Picking up Dot’s point rather than starting a new one.

What helped was noticing the pattern in my notes. Three difficult mornings across two months, all after the same thing.

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LucasSão Paulo, BR
#5

Mine hit much faster and lasted longer, and the following day was noticeably worse than it used to be.

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FionnualaDundalk, IE
#6

Lucas, thank you for that. It gives me somewhere to start from.

The pub is still the pub and I still go. That took a bit of working out and the answer turned out to be that the pub was never about the drink.

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BoWhitby, UK
#7

Just marking that I read this properly rather than skimming it.

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NedChesterfield, UK
#8

It simply stopped appealing. I had not decided anything and one day I noticed I had not wanted a drink in three weeks.

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Obi OEnugu, NG
#9

Fionnuala has already said most of this and I want to add the one part that was different for me.

My honest report is that I still drink, less, and I enjoy it more, which was not the outcome I predicted.

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TamGlasgow, UK
#10

What surprised me was how much I did not miss it. I had expected to and I genuinely did not, and that told me something.

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OttoPrague, CZ
#11

The thing I would flag is that if drinking has become a way of managing something, that is a different conversation and worth having with somebody qualified.

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SephNorwich, UK
#12

I had one evening where I was much more affected than expected and it frightened me, and I have been careful and fine since.

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TeganNewport, UK
#13

What helped was telling one friend, so that in a group there was somebody who knew and quietly covered for me.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#14

Noticing that the thread has answered the question and then kept going, which is fine, and I want the answer not to get buried.

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EspeSeville, ES
#15

Gently disagreeing with Seph, or rather adding the other half of it.

Something I got wrong was assuming an ordinary evening would go the way ordinary evenings used to. It did not and I had not planned for it.

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