What I would say to someone who has just had the call

Started 6 January 2025 · 24 replies · 257 hearts · read 3k times

NorahDerry, NI · 6 January 2025

1.5 years ago

What I would say to someone who has just had the call Writing it down partly to work out what I actually think.

I have had this diagnosis for a long time and none of the general advice quite fits me.

I have two clinicians who each manage half of me and neither of them has seen the whole picture, which is how I ended up asking a support community.

I am asking because the evidence for my particular combination seems thin, and I would rather hear that plainly than be reassured about it.

Thank you for reading all the background. I know it is a lot and I think it changes the answer.

SamPortland, OR

What helped was having something to measure that was not a body. Steps, sleep hours, a walk after dinner. All of those were things I could actually influence.

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BelCroydon, UK

I found the family history conversation useful and slightly upsetting. It explained a great deal and it also meant talking to relatives about things we do not discuss.

MiraFacilitatorRotterdam, Netherlands

Noting for later readers: when somebody updates after the appointment, that update tends to be the most useful part of the page and the part nobody thinks to write.

SadieSalford, UK

Mine has stayed steady for two years without dropping further, and my GP is entirely content with that, and it took me a while to be content with it too.

MarkCoventry, UK

Bel, thank you for that. It gives me somewhere to start from.

Something practical: I got a copy of every result going back six years and put them in one place, and the trend told me more than any single figure.

MinaLisbon, PT

I had assumed this was a straight line to something worse and my GP was clear that it is not, and that framing changed how I approached the whole year.

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GillyWorcester, UK

My nurse asked what I thought I could sustain rather than what I thought I should do, and that question produced a much more honest plan.

FlossieShrewsbury, UK

Coming back to what Mark wrote further up, because it is the bit I keep thinking about.

The bit I got wrong was treating it as an emergency for a fortnight and then forgetting about it for four months. Steady attention beat intense attention.

CallaWellington, NZ

Thank you for the update. Threads that stop are the worst kind.

LarkGalway, IE

#10

Gently disagreeing with Flossie, or rather adding the other half of it.

I found the group programme's most useful feature was that everybody in it was in the same position, which is a very similar reason to why I am here.

RomyVienna, AT

#11

The thing I would flag is that other things can move this figure, and mine turned out to have a second contributor that was worth investigating separately.

NixLeith, UK

#12

Lark, thank you for that. It gives me somewhere to start from.

I would say do not let a number become the whole of how you think about yourself. I did that for about six months and it was not useful.

NellaUtrecht, NL

#13

What I underestimated was how much better I would feel from the changes independently of any number. That turned out to be the durable motivation.

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RohanPune, IN

#14

My review is annual now and it is a five-minute conversation, which is exactly the amount of attention I want this to have in my life.

ZebAustin, TX

#15

Gently disagreeing with Nella, or rather adding the other half of it.

My experience is that the small things held and the big changes did not. Three months of enormous effort achieved less than a year of two small habits.

LilPreston, UK

#16

What I found here that I did not find elsewhere was people talking about this without any shame attached to it, which is most of why I stayed.

SorrelMachynlleth, UK

#17

The bit in the middle is the bit I needed to read.

MaisieScarborough, UK

#18

Building on what Zeb wrote rather than answering the original question.

The structured programme was six months of a group meeting and it was much better than I expected. Practical, unpatronising, and free.

NellFrome, UK

#19

Sorrel — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Something worth knowing: my figure had been drifting for four years and nobody had mentioned it. Asking for my old results was genuinely eye-opening.

RillaAberdeen, UK

#20

What surprised me was that sleep and stress moved my readings as much as anything on a plate did. That is not what the leaflets emphasise.

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StellanMalmö, SE

#21

Somebody in this circle said this is information rather than a verdict, and I have repeated that to two family members since.

TobySwindon, UK

#22

Nothing here is medical advice. The figure is yours, the context is yours, and the person who can interpret both is the one holding your record.

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MiraFacilitatorRotterdam, Netherlands

#23

Facilitator note: several members here have both conditions and the tangle is real. Naming which symptom belongs to which story is often the whole of the work.

OdileMontreal, CA

#24

Mira, thank you for that. It gives me somewhere to start from.

Coming back at the two-year mark to say the number held, the habits held, and the whole thing has become unremarkable, which was the aim.