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The plateau

Eleven weeks and I have stopped looking

Started 25 May 2025 · 15 replies · 154 hearts · read 1.4k times

TinukeManchester, UK · 25 May 2025
about a year ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: Eleven weeks and I have stopped looking

Long one, sorry. I have been chewing on this for a fortnight.

The thing that has surprised me most about this stage is how much of it is about other people rather than about me.

The practical side has settled and the rest of it has not, and I would like to hear how other people at this stage handled the part that is not practical.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers a whole stage of this.

The figure in the title is not rhetorical: eleven weeks is what my own notes actually say, counted back through them this evening rather than estimated.

Anyway. Thank you for reading this far. Any experience of this stage gratefully received, and I will come back and say what happened.

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BrammyBelfast, NI
#1

The bit that was hardest to say out loud was that I felt cheated. Not sad, not discouraged. Cheated. It helped enormously to name it accurately.

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TarqWindsor, UK
#2

I stopped weighing anything during mine, entirely, for three months. It was the single kindest decision I made that year and my prescriber was fine with it.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#3

Something worth noticing whenever it happens in a thread like this: somebody puts down the difficult version rather than the tidy one, and nobody flinches. That is not automatic and it is most of what we are for.

13me too 8

PerlaManila, PH
#4

Ada — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

My flat stretch coincided with a genuinely difficult period at work, and I now think the two were related in ways I will never be able to separate out.

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GrizelKirkcaldy, UK
#5

Mine went on so long that I forgot it was a plateau and just got on with things, and I think that is genuinely how most of them end — not with a change, but with you stopping watching.

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BrennaEnniskillen, NI
#6

Somebody here described the plateau as the part where you find out whether you are doing this for a number or for a life, and that landed harder than I wanted it to.

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WinkleWeymouth, UK
#7

Grizel, thank you for that. It gives me somewhere to start from.

Reading back through this circle's older threads was what got me through mine. Dozens of people, all convinced theirs was the permanent one, all still here.

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IzzyWatford, UK
#8

I asked at my review whether a long flat stretch meant something was wrong and was told, gently, that bodies are not linear and the assumption that they should be is the odd bit.

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VeraRiga, LV
#9

Something I had to unlearn: a plateau is not evidence that I did something wrong. I spent six weeks auditing my own behaviour for a mistake that was not there.

9me too 2

CatoAntwerp, BE
#10

Coming back to what Winkle wrote further up, because it is the bit I keep thinking about.

I found that keeping a two-line diary through a plateau was the only way to see that anything at all was happening. From inside the week it looked like nothing.

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NoleneDurban, ZA
#11

The practical thing I did was set a date twelve weeks out to review it properly, and then deliberately stop thinking about it until that date. It gave me the fortnight back.

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PietPretoria, ZA
#12

Mine ended the week I stopped keeping a spreadsheet about it, which is either a profound insight or a coincidence and I genuinely do not know which.

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IlseMaastricht, NL
#13

Picking up Cato’s point rather than starting a new one.

If you are in one, the thing I would ask is whether you are still doing the things that were helping before it started. I quietly stopped several of mine and only noticed in hindsight.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#14

Holding a boundary for a moment: we do not compare progress in this circle, and a couple of replies have edged towards it. No blame; just steering back.

19me too 3

StefanZurich, CH
#15

Gently disagreeing with Ilse, or rather adding the other half of it.

I want to add the unglamorous version: mine was boring rather than distressing. Weeks of nothing, mild irritation, and then it moved. Not every plateau is a crisis.

10me too 2