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The line between not hungry and not eating

Started 21 July 2025 · 12 replies · 119 hearts · read 941 times

OrlaithDonegal, IE · 21 July 2025
12 months ago

Something I have been sitting with: The line between not hungry and not eating Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

This is a difficult one to write and I have deleted it twice.

What I would find useful is knowing whether anybody else has felt this way about it, because from inside my own head it seems like an unreasonable reaction.

The thing I keep coming back to is that I expected to feel one way and I feel another, and the gap between those is what I want to talk about.

That is all. Thank you for being the kind of place where this can be written down.

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SableCape Town, ZA
#1

I stepped back for four months on advice and came back, and nobody asked me where I had been in a way that required an answer.

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GrizelKirkcaldy, UK
#2

Orlaith, answering your question directly rather than going round the houses.

The facilitators in this circle have training in this specifically, and I checked that before I posted, and I am glad it was easy to find out.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#3

Facilitator note: if any of this has landed close to home while you were reading, our support resources page lists the kinds of service worth finding. No obligation and no drama.

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GwionBangor, UK
#4

What has helped is that nobody here treats appetite as a moral matter. That absence is doing a lot of work and I do not think it is accidental.

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RunaAarhus, DK
#5

I have found the structure of this circle protective. The agreements are not decoration and I have watched them being held.

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PádraigGalway, IE
#6

This is the honest version, and the honest version is harder to write.

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OllieCardiff, UK
#7

My treatment team were involved from before I started, which I would say is the single most important thing in my whole account.

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RenataKraków, PL
#8

What Runa described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

Somebody noticed something in what I had written, said so once, kindly, and then stayed. That is the best thing anybody has done for me here.

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QuinGuildford, UK
#9

What I would say is that a support community is not treatment. This is company alongside the people who actually know my history.

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NanNeath, UK
#10

I keep in regular contact with my team and I tell them what I am reading and where. That transparency has kept me safe more than once.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#11

Gently noticing that four replies have offered a solution and nobody has yet asked what would actually help. Worth asking.

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OsricSalisbury, UK
#12

Quin — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Somebody here said that recovery is not a straight line and nobody in this circle expects it to be, and I read that on a very bad evening.

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