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When the noise goes quiet

Boredom I had been eating over, now visible

Started 21 December 2025 · 11 replies · 83 hearts · read 1.7k times

OsgarKillarney, IE · 21 December 2025
7 months ago

Something I have been sitting with: Boredom I had been eating over, now visible Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

Not asking anyone to fix this. Mostly saying it out loud somewhere it will be read kindly.

I have read a great deal about the physical side of this and almost nothing about the part I am actually struggling with.

Something shifted a few months ago and I have only just been able to put words to it, and the words are still not quite right.

What I want is company rather than an answer, and I have learned that this circle is one of the few places where asking for that is not strange.

I do not know how to end this properly, so I am just going to stop here and press the button.

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FreyaReykjavík, IS
#1

What I would tell somebody experiencing this for the first time is that whatever it brings up is allowed, including the things that do not look like gratitude.

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NualaArmagh, NI
#2

Picking up Freya’s point rather than starting a new one.

The thing I would say is that this is worth talking about in therapy if you have access to it. Mine opened up a great deal that I had not connected to it.

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TinukeManchester, UK
#3

What I found is that habits built around the noise outlasted the noise. I was still doing things for a reason that no longer applied, months later.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#4

Facilitator note: this is a circle for saying things out loud, and there is no obligation on anybody to act on what they say here.

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LuPreston, UK
#5

No wisdom, just: I am sorry. That sounds genuinely hard.

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CallaWellington, NZ
#6

Coming back two years on to say the quiet held, that the adjustment was real, and that I would not go back to how my head sounded before.

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SaraOslo, NO
#7

I cried the first week. Not from relief exactly. From something closer to grief for how much effort I had been spending without knowing it.

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IzzyWatford, UK
#8

Coming back to what Lu wrote further up, because it is the bit I keep thinking about.

What was underneath the noise turned out to be the actual subject. Once it stopped I had to look at what it had been covering, and that took a year.

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BramGhent, BE
#9

Building on what Calla wrote rather than answering the original question.

The space it left was uncomfortable at first. I had a great deal of attention suddenly free and no idea what to do with it.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#10

Speaking as a facilitator: I am leaving this open. Some threads should not be closed neatly and this is one of them.

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MaritGroningen, NL
#11

Jonah — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

I did not realise how much of my planning had been about this until it stopped. Entire structures in my week turned out to exist for a reason that had gone.

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