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When the noise goes quiet

Is the hum coming back a sign the dose is wrong

Started 1 December 2025 · 14 replies · 119 hearts · read 1.9k times

SalmaManchester, UK · 1 December 2025
8 months ago

Something I have been sitting with: Is the hum coming back a sign the dose is wrong Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

I have been sitting on this for a month.

I do not think anything is wrong exactly. I think something is different and I have not caught up with it yet.

This is the third time I have started this post and the first time I have got to the end of it, so I am going to press the button before I lose my nerve.

I have spent a long time managing everybody else's feelings about this and I have not looked at my own, and that is what this post is.

I do not know how to end this properly, so I am just going to stop here and press the button.

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PoppyLeeds, UK
#1

The quiet was the thing I was least prepared for. I had spent thirty years with a background hum and had no idea it was not how everybody's head sounded.

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AmmiKarachi, PK
#2

Somebody in this circle described it as the volume going down rather than the station changing, and that was the most accurate description I have read.

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BrammyBelfast, NI
#3

Poppy has already said most of this and I want to add the one part that was different for me.

I noticed it first in the supermarket, of all places, standing in an aisle that had always been difficult and finding it was simply an aisle.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#4

Thank you for writing this. I am not going to add information to it. What you have described is very common and very rarely said out loud.

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LuPreston, UK
#5

What I would tell somebody experiencing this for the first time is that whatever it brings up is allowed, including the things that do not look like gratitude.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#6

Gently disagreeing with Brammy, or rather adding the other half of it.

The thing that helped was not treating the quiet as the point. It was one change among several and building everything around it made it fragile.

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FreyaReykjavík, IS
#7

This is the honest version, and the honest version is harder to write.

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ClemmieNorwich, UK
#8

My version was gradual rather than sudden. Nothing dramatic, just a slow noticing over about two months that something had stopped.

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SaraOslo, NO
#9

Somebody asked me whether I miss it, which sounds like an absurd question and is not. There was a familiarity to it that I have had to let go of.

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SaoirseKilkenny, IE
#10

Picking up Freya’s point rather than starting a new one.

I keep a note from my first month about what it had been like before, because I could already feel the memory of it fading and I did not want to lose it.

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SorayaTehran, IR
#11

Gently disagreeing with Clemmie, or rather adding the other half of it.

I would gently say that if the quiet has left you with a lot of unexpected feeling, that is very common here and it is worth saying out loud.

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IzzyWatford, UK
#12

The relief was enormous and the adjustment was real, and I think people talk about the first and not the second.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#13

Two things, both boring. None of us is a therapist. And the fact that we are not does not make company worthless — it makes it company rather than treatment.

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MaeveSligo, IE
#14

Building on what Jonah wrote rather than answering the original question.

Mine is quieter on some days than others and correlates strongly with sleep, which took me about a year of notes to see.

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