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Grief and eating

A separation, a move, and no appetite at all

Started 6 June 2026 · 10 replies · 58 hearts · read 1.4k times

NúriaBarcelona, ES · 6 June 2026
1 month ago

A separation, a move, and no appetite at all Writing it down partly to work out what I actually think.

I have been sitting on this for a month.

What I want is company rather than an answer, and I have learned that this circle is one of the few places where asking for that is not strange.

I am not in crisis and I do not want anybody worried. I am flat, and I have been flat for longer than I would like, and I am naming it here first.

Thanks. Saying it here first has made the idea of saying it to somebody else considerably less impossible.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#1

What helped was somebody saying that grief does not have a schedule and that mine was not going too slowly.

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BibiRabat, MA
#2

I found the physical exhaustion of it startling. Nobody had told me grief was tiring in that specific bodily way.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#3

Six weeks in was harder than the first week for me. Everybody had gone back to their lives and I was still in mine.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#4

Facilitator note: this is a circle for saying things out loud, and there is no obligation on anybody to act on what they say here.

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MaudGhent, BE
#5

Picking up Wren’s point rather than starting a new one.

Coming back a year on to say that eating is ordinary again, that the grief is not gone, and that both of those things can be true.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#6

People bring food. That is what happens, and for the first month I could not eat any of it and I felt terrible about the waste and the kindness.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#7

My family all handled it differently and food was where our differences showed up, which I had not anticipated at all.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#8

Nothing here is advice. This is a circle for company, and if you need more than company, the support resources page lists what to look for.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#9

Speaking as a facilitator: I am leaving this open. Some threads should not be closed neatly and this is one of them.

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BibiRabat, MA
#10

Building on what Wren wrote rather than answering the original question.

Reading old threads in this circle at four in the morning was, for a while, the only thing that helped, and I never posted once.

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