My menopause specialist's honest answer about the overlap

Started 24 February 2025 · 14 replies · 149 hearts · read 2.6k times

MarnieAyr, UK · 24 February 2025

1.4 years ago

My menopause specialist's honest answer about the overlap — putting it in its own thread so it does not get lost in the check-in.

I have had this diagnosis for a long time and none of the general advice quite fits me.

I have brought this up at two appointments and been reassured both times without anybody actually looking at it, which is why I want to go in better prepared.

My history means the standard advice is not safe for me to follow, and I would like to hear from people whose history looks like mine.

I have written out my results as a series rather than as single figures, because the trend is where my question actually lives.

I will report back after my specialist appointment, because there is not much written about this and I would like to add to it.

AbramAmsterdam, NL

I would gently say do not accept everything being attributed to your age. Mine was, twice, and both times something specific was found when somebody looked.

LlianCarmarthen, UK

The thing that helped was one clinician taking a view of the whole picture. Until then I had three people each managing a third of me.

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HalCambridge, UK

That is a kinder way of putting it than I have managed about myself.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

Speaking as a facilitator: asking what the clinician would want to see next time turns a review into a plan, and several people here have found that.

BirdieMargate, UK

Somebody in this circle said the untangling is the work, and that is exactly right. The individual pieces were manageable; separating them was not.

HannahSheffield, UK

Hal — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

What I would flag is that the timing of everything matters more than it used to. My whole week is arranged differently now and it works.

GwynforLlanidloes, UK

Reading Ada, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Mine has settled into something workable over about eighteen months, with a lot of small adjustments and one significant conversation.

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BettinaGraz, AT

The mood side was the hardest for me to talk about because I did not want it attributed to the obvious thing before anybody looked properly.

FenellaCirencester, UK

The stage I am at came with a lot of unsolicited opinion from other people, and this circle has been notably free of that.

WellsChester, UK

#10

Gently disagreeing with Gwynfor, or rather adding the other half of it.

Something practical: I keep two columns in my notes so that each thing gets recorded against its own story rather than in one undifferentiated list.

HollyBath, UK

#11

I would say push for a proper conversation about the interaction rather than two separate consultations that never meet.

CoralieMarseille, FR

#12

What Wells described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

The hot flushes were unrelated in my case, as it turned out, and finding that out took a specialist appointment and a lot of patience.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

#13

Gently noticing that we have three people describing three different clinical arrangements, all of which are real, none of which transfers automatically to anybody else.

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NyreeChristchurch, NZ

#14

My bone health conversation happened because I asked for it, not because it was offered, and I would encourage anybody here to ask.