My husband is quietly threatened by this and neither of us will say it

My mother cooks as an act of love and my appetite changing felt to her like a rejection, and naming that out loud helped both of us.

Just marking that I read this properly rather than skimming it.

The comments at family meals were relentless for about a year and then stopped, mostly because I stopped responding to them.

My sister started too, six months after me, and it has been unexpectedly lovely to have somebody in the house who understands.

Something practical: I told my partner exactly what would help during a difficult week, in advance, in writing, and it worked.

The hardest conversation was about money, because this costs and we share a budget and I had been quietly not mentioning it.

Gently disagreeing with Ozren, or rather adding the other half of it.

What I did not anticipate was how much better things got once I stopped managing everybody's feelings about it as well as my own.

My partner came to a family event with a prepared subject change and deployed it three times, and it was the kindest thing.

My experience is that families adjust more slowly than individuals and that the adjustment does eventually happen.

The friction in our house was almost entirely about the changed evening routine rather than about anything medical.

Picking up Omar’s point rather than starting a new one.

My children noticed before my partner did, which says something I am still thinking about.