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Recovery-aware does not mean I am made of glass

Started 24 February 2025 · 15 replies · 151 hearts · read 1.6k times

GwionBangor, UK · 24 February 2025
1.4 years ago

Something I have been sitting with: Recovery-aware does not mean I am made of glass Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

I have been sitting on this for a month.

I have spent a long time managing everybody else's feelings about this and I have not looked at my own, and that is what this post is.

I have been sitting on this for a month and it has not got smaller, which I gather is how these things usually go.

The thing I keep coming back to is that I expected to feel one way and I feel another, and the gap between those is what I want to talk about.

If you have felt anything like this, I would like to know. If you have not, that is worth knowing too.

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OllieCardiff, UK
#1

Somebody noticed something in what I had written, said so once, kindly, and then stayed. That is the best thing anybody has done for me here.

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GrizelKirkcaldy, UK
#2

My treatment team were involved from before I started, which I would say is the single most important thing in my whole account.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#3

Thank you for writing this. I am not going to add information to it. What you have described is very common and very rarely said out loud.

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SadieSalford, UK
#4

Building on what Jonah wrote rather than answering the original question.

I came here because everywhere else assumed a relationship with eating that I do not have, and the assumptions themselves were difficult.

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PádraigGalway, IE
#5

The bit in the middle is the bit I needed to read.

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OrlaithDonegal, IE
#6

Coming back to say that I am doing well, that my team say the same, and that this circle has been part of how I got here without ever pretending to be more than it is.

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OsricSalisbury, UK
#7

Nothing here is treatment and nothing here is advice. If you are in difficulty, the people who know your history are the ones to speak to, and our support resources page lists the kinds of service worth finding.

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RunaAarhus, DK
#8

What I did not expect was how much it would help to be around people who simply do not discuss certain things. The silence is doing something.

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RenataKraków, PL
#9

Something I have learned here is that saying I am struggling does not require me to explain why. That has been a relief.

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BramwellNottingham, UK
#10

Renata said something I want to sit with for a second.

The support resources page is linked on every page of this site, and I have used it, and it was the right thing at the right moment.

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QuinGuildford, UK
#11

Something I have had to be careful about is how much time I spend reading. There is a version of research that is not research and I know mine.

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BroganCumbernauld, UK
#12

I would gently say to anybody here that if a conversation has started to feel like it is feeding something, that is worth saying out loud rather than managing alone.

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SableCape Town, ZA
#13

What I appreciate is that this circle does not talk about food in the way the rest of the internet does. That is a deliberate choice and it works.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#14

I want to name what it costs to meet something frightening calmly rather than rushing at it. It takes practice, this circle has it, and none of us had it at the start.

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OllieCardiff, UK
#15

Thank you. Genuinely.

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