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The GP who would not prescribe and the one who would

Started 26 December 2024 · 24 replies · 277 hearts · read 4.1k times

TorinBelfast, NI · 26 December 2024
1.6 years ago

A question rather than an update: The GP who would not prescribe and the one who would

Anyone else navigating this? I feel as though every piece of advice I read was written for someone with a completely different week.

This is the boring administrative kind of problem, which I gather is the kind that actually gets solved when you ask.

I would like practical detail rather than encouragement. What people actually do, in what order, and what goes wrong when they get it wrong.

My household has adjusted to about half of this and the other half is causing small daily friction that I have not known how to raise.

I will come back and say what I settled on, in case it is useful to the next person asking this.

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NazneenDhaka, BD
#1

I would gently say that if your relationship with eating has a difficult history, that is worth telling whoever is prescribing.

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TildaCambridge, UK
#2

Somebody in this circle said the horizon is long and the decision is revisable, and that combination is what makes it manageable for me.

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FlorrieBlackburn, UK
#3

The cost conversation with my prescriber produced two options I had not known about, and I had put off asking for a year.

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KikiFacilitatorGlasgow, UK
#4

I want to acknowledge how much unglamorous organising sits behind most of the accounts here. It is real work and it rarely gets named as work.

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GabePhoenix, AZ
#5

My experience of appointments improved enormously once I stopped trying to sound older and more organised than I am.

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TorrinAberdeen, UK
#6

Something practical: everything I need fits in a small bag because I have lived in four places since starting.

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OsmanAnkara, TR
#7

Torrin — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Nothing here is medical advice and at this age the long-term questions are genuinely open, and anybody who tells you otherwise is guessing.

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AikoOsaka, JP
#8

This is the honest version, and the honest version is harder to write.

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TallisEly, UK
#9

The thing I would flag to anybody young here is that the internet is very loud on this subject and most of it is selling something.

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NyalaAddis Ababa, ET
#10

Gently disagreeing with Aiko, or rather adding the other half of it.

What helped was one friend who knows everything, which took me eight months to arrange and has been worth all of it.

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BarnabyWinchester, UK
#11

My prescriber and I have a plan that gets reviewed every six months, and having it be revisable rather than fixed suits my life.

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GwenBangor, UK
#12

Tallis, thank you for that. It gives me somewhere to start from.

Something that helped was writing down why I started, because at eighteen months I could not remember what my reasoning had been.

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LinneaTurku, FI
#13

I moved cities and had to rebuild every arrangement, which took three months, and I would plan for that if I moved again.

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GwionBangor, UK
#14

What I found is that being taken seriously at my age required me to be very organised in appointments, more than an older person would need to be.

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TorinBelfast, NI
#15

The comparison with people my age online was actively harmful for me and I stopped reading any of it about a year ago.

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NazneenDhaka, BD
#16

My honest report is that I am doing well, that it has been mostly boring, and that the boring part is the part I value.

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TildaCambridge, UK
#17

Thank you for the update. Threads that stop are the worst kind.

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FlorrieBlackburn, UK
#18

What I underestimated was how much of this is admin, and how badly my chaotic twenties are suited to admin.

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TobinCork, IE
#19

Tilda — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

My friends do not know and I have found that isolating, and this is where I say the things I cannot say to them.

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GabePhoenix, AZ
#20

What surprised me was how much of the material is aimed at people twice my age, and how little of it fits my actual week.

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TorrinAberdeen, UK
#21

What I would say to somebody my age starting is to find one adult who knows. Any adult. It makes a difference.

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OsmanAnkara, TR
#22

Coming back at eighteen months to say it has been fine, that it has been boring, and that I am glad I asked for a proper plan rather than improvising.

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KikiFacilitatorGlasgow, UK
#23

Facilitator note: nothing in this circle is medical advice and the practical arrangements still need agreeing with whoever prescribes for you.

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TallisEly, UK
#24

Picking up Osman’s point rather than starting a new one.

The long horizon is the part I think about most. Nobody can tell me what twenty years of this looks like because nobody knows yet.

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